I offered up more and more of myself I submitted to his will and in return, when I least expected it, he rewarded me. Once I started seeing things as giving more I was actually rewarded more often. I was being selfish and made my needs and desires more important than my partners. This got to the point that I didn't want to play unless I was getting an orgasm or something like that. For the longest time, I used to tell myself that I wouldn't submit unless I got something in return. Selfishness is a very damaging trait to have when you are trying to be submissive. The personality traits I'm talking about are: If these can not be curbed it is likely you are not cut out to be submissive. There are a few, however, that don't lend them to being a vital part of submission and can, in fact, cause a lot of strife. People develop specific personality traits, that then define if they can be submissive or not. At the end of this article, I will invite you to share your own thoughts with me. Submissives all over are going to agree or disagree with this, but as this is my newsletter, you are going to be subjected to my opinion. What I am going to cover is submission on a personality or character level. I'm not going to cover this form of submission in this article. You can be submissive for weekends or set amounts of time. Anyone and I mean this, anyone can be a bottom for a short period of time. A bedroom submissive or a kinky bottom is something entirely different. Great, so how do you know if you can be submissive or not?įirst, let me say that the type of submissive I'm talking about here is a relationship submissive someone who is subordinate in everyday things.
We all have different thresholds for what we can and can't do, but realizing we can't be submissive isn't the end of the world. It is even possible that you are not really cut out for it. Not everyone is capable of being submissive.